It is with a heavy heart that we have to announce the closure of You Raise Me Up due to a lack of ongoing financial support.

We have loved being able to support so many families for the last 15 years in memory of Megan and Jane Brooks.
We would like to thank everyone who has supported the charity for the past 15 years and we are so grateful to have had this opportunity for as long as we have.
We also pay tribute to all our staff, counsellors and supporters – including many local businesses – for all the hard work they have done. It has been a privilege working with everyone.
You Raise Me Up has been an incredibly special place for so many and we will treasure the experiences we have had and the wonderful families we have met.
This decision has not been easy and we have explored all viable options, but unfortunately due to a lack of sustained financial support and rising operational costs we can no longer operate.
This is an incredibly difficult time and we know how much upset this will cause. But we are immensely proud of everything You Raise Me Up has achieved. Megan and Jane’s legacy will continue beyond the organisation itself.
As of now we will no longer be operating. Our priority now is to ensure a responsible and compassionate wind-down.
Should you have any questions, please email trustees@youraisemeup.co.uk

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The 5 stages of grief

The five stages of grief model was developed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. People can experience these aspects of grief at different times and they do not happen in one particular order.

Denial & Isolation

The first reaction to loss or bereavement of a cherished loved one is to deny the reality of the situation. It is a normal reaction to rationalise overwhelming emotions and a defence mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.

Anger

As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family or even our deceased loved one. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed. Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.

Bargaining

The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control • If only we had sought medical attention sooner • If only we got a second opinion from another doctor • If only I was there, then this would not have happened.

Depression

Depression is often associated with bereavement. A reaction to loss can be that we worry we have spent less time with others that depend on us, and this can bring anxiety, which can lead to depression.

Acceptance

Reaching this stage of mourning is a gift not afforded to everyone. Death may be sudden and unexpected or we may never see beyond our anger or denial. It is not necessarily a mark of bravery to resist the inevitable and to deny ourselves the opportunity to make peace with our feelings and our grief.